What Can We Learn From Our Teenagers?

I wrote recently about how, as adults, we sometimes lose the ability to see the wonder in things and we should look to how young children view the world to really see how amazing it is. Well, this got me thinking about how teenagers see the world!
Teenagers and young people also see the world in a very different way to adults don’t they? They engage in their world in their own way and I think we misjudge teenagers sometimes. We often hear phrases such as ‘misguided’, ‘carefree’ or ‘out of control’ to describe teens and this is unfair. I wonder how many adults could learn a thing or two from our young people? Adults often describe their life as ‘boring’,  ‘in a rut”, ‘being on a treadmill’ or ‘mundane’. Well, perhaps we need to look towards our teenagers and young people and see how they live their lives, remember those things and engage in our world through their eyes?
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So, How Was School Today? 12 Questions to ask your child.

I love watching the children in my class rush out the door at the end of the day. They remove their coat, chuck their bag at their parent and dash towards the playground as their parent asks, ‘how was school today?” Most say, “fine!’ And carry on running! They have lived school all day. They don’t want to relive it by answering their parents! However, as a parent, I also know how frustrating this can be or even upsetting; we just want to know what our children have been doing and if they have enjoyed themselves!
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5 ways in which your stress impacts your child.

Spending time together over the holiday period can be very stressful. According to statistics 62% of people found that they would describe their stress levels as ‘very or somewhat’ elevated over the holiday period. Perhaps because we are trying to make the holidays as perfect as they can be, without thinking instead about spending quality time together. In fact, the media tells us that divorce rates are elevated during January as couples are looking for a fresh start after spending so much time together over the holidays. Whatever the statistics, elevated stress levels can cause real heartache and it’s not just felt by adults, it can also impact our children.
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A Daughter’s a Daughter for life

When you become a mother to a baby girl, your life changes. It’s not that being a mother to a boy means that you aren’t going to experience a huge change, but having a daughter is an experience like no other. The mother/daughter bond is one that, when nurtured the right way, is unbreakable. Your daughter is going to grow up and be a reflection of you  and if you get it right when she is little, you are going to end up with a best friend. It’s common knowledge that mothers and daughters have difficulties in their relationship when that beautiful little girl becomes a beautifully opinionated teenager.
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Should you leave your teenager alone overnight?

It’s my birthday tomorrow and the hubbie and I are off out and are staying over at a posh hotel. We have never left both teenagers alone overnight before. Whenever we go anywhere, they, or our youngest, have always come too. I know that my daughter is 18 in a few months so she is definitely old, mature and sensible enough. Legally, there is no definite age that children can be left overnight. It is all pretty confusing actually but the NSPCC state that no child should be left alone overnight under the age of 16. I agree with this as if there was an emergency, can you fully trust your child to know what to do? I’m not sure my youngest would, although he is very mature for his age in many respects. No, my worry is not that they won’t cope. My worry is that I don’t quite trust them or should I say, I don’t quite trust the teenager in them! My youngest has already asked if he can have a party, a few friends over, his girlfriend to stay…..

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5 tips for teaching our teenagers responsibility.

It’s not my teenagers fault that the wet towels are still on the floor. It’s not their fault that they haven’t got any money. It’s not their fault that they didn’t do their homework and it’s certainly not their fault that they missed the bus.
We’ve heard it all before right? The blame game? Where our children blame something else or someone for their mistakes?
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My Top 5 Picture Books for Young Children.

I was nominated to take part in this post over at Kids story world who kindly asked me to join in and share my favourite children’s books! Well, I love children’s books so here are mine! I have chosen picture books that I use in my job at a teacher. I’m currently teaching in a UK school in Year 1. Children of age 5 and 6 love these stories read to them. I feel very passionately that children need to be read to for as long as possible. Literacy is one of the most important gifts we can give to our children.
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What to do when your child refuses to be comforted.


There are some people who take on life’s trials a little more than others. You know the ones; they worry about everything or get stressed by the small things. They may get angry quickly or fall in love at the drop of a hat. Children are no different. We tend to call them ‘sensitive’ or ‘sensory’ and, as a teacher I see these children sometimes struggle just a little more than other children.

The other day, I watched as a mum tried to get her child to come away from the school playground as it was time to go home. The child was having none of it. We’ve all been there! The child was having a full on tantrum and the mum was getting very stressed by it all. She lost her temper (fair enough) and grabbed her child and carried him to the car. I didn’t see what came next but I can imagine the drive home was horrible and stressful for everyone. I know this because I’ve been there.
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Why your teen needs time out more than ever.

I watch my teenagers and they have their phones attached to their hands practically all the time. I wouldn’t be surprised to see this adaptation as part of a teenagers evolution! As parents, we try to schedule time away from their phones and we encourage them to leave their phones downstairs over night as we do, but they like to text their friends in the evening and I get that. I remember talking to my friends too although I was sat on the stairs wrapped in my duvet as the phone was in the Hallway! It makes it tricky to police when phones are so accessible and they both want to use their phones as alarm clocks.
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