Those feelings are returning.
You know the ones.
The feelings of, “I’ve taken on a bit much here and I’m struggling to find time to even go to the loo in peace!’
Why do I not prioritise my own life? Why don’t I practise self-care?
Or when you realise your house looks like it has never been cleaned in it’s entire life (and the old house was built in 1840) so you get the picture!
Why is it we find it hard to strike a balance in life?
I ask myself this and do join me if you like, why do I find it hard to prioritise my own life?
I think this is very much something that many parents feel. Of course our children can’t be left to fend for themselves and that is not what I’m saying! However, I don’t think parents prioritise time for themselves. Time away from the children to be adults. Time to exercise or get our nails done or even spend time with our partners.
Two weeks ago I decided to join the gym. Yes, I know I’m adding more to my life mix! But if I don’t prioritise my physical health then I have found that I just don’t cope very well with stress and I begin to panic that I can’t cope. This is my vicious cycle that plays on repeat. I’ve been a member to this gym in the past and enjoy swimming. There is a small pool at this gym that is practically empty as everyone is in the gym! It feels like my own little pool where I can swim in peace without being jumped on by little children. There are lovely warm changing rooms with free fluffy towels and bath robes to use. And….there is a sauna that no one else seems to have discovered! For the past 2 weeks I have been going after work three days a week and it is bliss. I’m aiming for 100 lengths every week which sounds amazing to me so I just don’t remind myself that the pool is only 15 metres long! I am noticing the difference in my ability to manage the stress already. It’s as if that time in the pool is giving me the time I need to recharge.
So how do you find time for yourself and what do you do in that time?
If it’s a 40 minute run, watching a football match, enjoying a cup of tea whilst reading a good book or a lovely, long, leisurely bubble bath, make time for you because no one else will and you will thank yourself for it!
Now, I’m off for a hot stone massage! I’ve never had one so thought I’d try it because……I’m worth it!
A blog about my life in The Old House, a mum to teenagers, a primary school teacher and my passion for gardening.