When you become a mother to a baby girl, your life changes. It’s not that being a mother to a boy means that you aren’t going to experience a huge change, but having a daughter is an experience like no other. The mother/daughter bond is one that, when nurtured the right way, is unbreakable. Your daughter is going to grow up and be a reflection of you and if you get it right when she is little, you are going to end up with a best friend. It’s common knowledge that mothers and daughters have difficulties in their relationship when that beautiful little girl becomes a beautifully opinionated teenager.
Two hens in one nest is never an easy thing to deal with, but that does change over time. One day you’ll stand watching your daughter be defiant and test her limits, and the next she will be in your arms declaring you to be a grandmother. It’s a bond that is solid, unyielding and like gold when she becomes an adult.
Securing a good bond with your daughter has to be a priority. Her self-esteem is going to rely on your treatment of her. Women with strong and understanding mothers who want to raise them with compromise, conviction and love are going to be women who have secure relationships and even better emotional health. Women who are raised in a critical and judgemental way are those who struggle to find their feet emotionally with all relationships in their lives. It’s up to you to manage your relationship with your daughter. Bonding with her when she is young – from making friendship bracelets together to building a beautiful dolls house with her – is going to set the tone for your relationship as she grows. She is going to butt heads with you one day, test her limits and go against your advice. As long as you keep consistently supportive and loving with her no matter what she does, you are going to have a healthy and long-lasting relationship with her.
Raising your daughter with a mutual love and respect means that no matter what happens, she will find her way to your arms and to your heart. Every mother in the world wants a cemented relationship with their children, but many don’t realise how important it is to work on that relationship from childhood. Setting aside dedicated time to spend with your little girl routinely isn’t just going to set her up to feel secure with how much you are there for her. It’s going to make you feel like you are doing something beyond as a mother, giving you a confidence boost in your abilities. A daughter will never leave your side and will always come flocking back to you as long as she knows you will be there with open arms and love. If you treat the relationship that you have with your daughter with the respect that it deserves, you will find yourself feeling whole – exactly as a mother should.
I have written some life lessons for my daughter here that you may enjoy reading.
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