So, How Was School Today? 12 Questions to ask your child.

I love watching the children in my class rush out the door at the end of the day. They remove their coat, chuck their bag at their parent and dash towards the playground as their parent asks, ‘how was school today?” Most say, “fine!’ And carry on running! They have lived school all day. They don’t want to relive it by answering their parents! However, as a parent, I also know how frustrating this can be or even upsetting; we just want to know what our children have been doing and if they have enjoyed themselves!

So, here are some things that you could ask your child at collection. Although perhaps taking to them after some downtime may be better!

  • What did you learn today?
  • What did you do that was fun today?
  • Name one thing that made you laugh today?
  • Did you help anyone today?
  • Was anyone kind to you today?
  • Did you learn any new words today?
  • Did you hear any weird words today?
  • Who was your friend today?
  • What games did you play outside today?
  • Did you read any books today?
  • Have you been writing today -can you remember what you wrote about?
  • Who is the funniest person in your class?

How was school today? 12 questions to ask your child. Oldhouseintheshires. #education #parenting

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  • Brilliant. I used to babysit a little boy in Kindergarten. Of course, when I would pick him up he would say he learned nothing all day. Once I finally got out of him what they were learning in school (the alphabet) I was able to ask “which letter did you learn about today”, which would keep us all talking most of the drive home! Being involved in kids learning is important -it helps make conversation and allows us to find further “teachable” moments.

    • What a lovely comment, Katelyn, thank you! Yes, asking the ‘right’ questions can bring all sorts of answers! Thank you for stopping by. X

  • Great post, such a good point. Those questions look like brilliant ones to get children talking about their day properly. #satsesh

    • Oh thank you! I love their answers too. X

  • These are some great questions. I’m going to use these. Whenever I ask my son what he’s done at pre-school my question is met with the same old answer “don’t know”. It drives me mad! #thesatsesh

    • Haha! That’s it, isn’t it! Bless him. Xx

  • Great ideas. I normally keep it very simple as my 3.5 has some developmental delay so I know he can only answer short questions and only the ones he wants. But he’s only 3.5 anyway so he never wants to talk about ore-school on the way home. #thesatsesh

    • Ah bless you but you can still ask as it may help with his recall. Thank you for stopping by. X

  • Perfectly perfect as usual. I remember one occasion when I picked up a friends little boy who had just started at Prep School. How was school, James? ‘We did Peeing in The Great Hall’ he replied. It took me a moment to process peeing as P.E! X

  • Great suggestions, Sophie. I think sometimes children have done so much that it’s difficult to pick out one thing, so your questions are good to prompt a memory. Other times, I think they have just been engaged in “more of the same”, like an adult at work, and nothing stands out. How many adults, when asked how their day was, go into detail? Generally they’ll only discuss the stand-out moments, and they don’t occur every day.
    To help “my” parents discuss the day with their children, I sent home a note each day (as part of the daily news) telling of a few things we did during the day. That way parents at least had a starting point for conversation. It worked well.

    • That’s a nice idea Norah! With my year 1’s though I just don’t have time to be writing all those notes each day. I did a class board once which worked well for 4 and 5 year olds where I would write a brief outline of what we did. The parents loved that. X

      • We all have to decide what’s achievable and ensure we don’t create an extra load for ourselves in a profession that already has high expectations. Your class board sounds like a lovely idea.

  • Oooh I really like ‘who was your friend today?’ as an alternative to who did you play with today? One that goes down well with my son is ‘what made you have a good giggle today?’ and it’s usually answered when he’s getting his pjs on – rarely do I get much out of him straight after school or certainly when I get back from work and the TV may be already on! #thesatsesh xx

    • Yes, they do seem to not want to chat straight after school do they? I love that question! X

  • We have a set of cards at the dinner table with questions. I find they do a better job of drawing out information beyond yes and no! Very important. If they talk to you now about the small stuff I hope they will talk about the big stuff!

    • I expect you have had too much fun Isabella. X

  • Fab idea and always find with my son don’t ask straight away. Later on in the evening his relaxed to discuss school stuff otherwise I would never get anything out of him, lol X #familyfunlinky

    • Yes absolutely. They are so tired straight after school aren’t they?

  • #thesatsesh I think they key point here is to make the questions specific to consequently increase the level of the answer. I’m a classic ‘What did you have for lunch?’ Mum – I altered it after reading this by asking what vegetables were on his plate at lunch….broccoli in case you are interested, but again it lead to more explicit dialogue. Lovely idea for a post (as always)

  • Open ended interviewing is what works best! It took me a few years to figure that out, but now they love to spill the beans! #mondaystumble xoxo

  • Having scan read this earlier today, I put it into use this afternoon! I think with a tired five year old, open questions are just far too draining, and I had a much better response when I tried a more direct approach. Thanks!
    And thank you for linking to #coolmumclub

    • Oh I’m so glad! I think we forget that little people are tired. X

  • Great steps! I have just a request, if possible to share your thoughts about classroom pupils’ discipline. If you don’t mind. I really like to have some information from your experience.

  • Great ideas. I know I get nothing out of my two if I ask how their day was or what they did and have to ask more specific questions. Although my 8 year old loves telling me all about his day in minute detail at bedtime when I’m trying to turn out his light!
    Thank you for joining #FamilyFunLinky x

    • Oh thank you so much for that! Im glad it was useful to you. x

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