It’s always a sad moment when you have to say goodbye to your kids as they go off to university. But rather than dwelling on how much you’re going to miss them, a better way to use your energy might be to try and improve their chances of educational success by helping them along in whatever way you can. Certainly, they will be keen to be free of you to a certain extent, that is perfectly natural. But there are non-intrusive ways you can help them – both before they actually leave, and from afar once they have settled into their halls and started studying. Let’s look at some of the best things you can do here.
Before they go, prepare your teenager by talking to them about what it might be like; they might experience loneliness or miss home but this is normal. Encourage them to join in with lots of different activities to meet new people. Teach them a few recipes so that they can cook something! This will be so valuable when they are trying to budget. Show them how to do their laundry if they are not used to doing chores (they should be!) Listen to their worries or fears but explain that it is normal to feel this way.
Teach Them The Value Of Productivity
The more productive your child is at university, the more that they will be able to get out of the experience, no matter where their own personal skills might lie. If you can teach them the value of productivity, therefore, you will be helping them to get a much better degree, and get much more out of their experience at university on the whole as well. If you take a look at this article on How to Become a Productive Student, you will see that there are many behaviours and habits you can begin to encourage in your child in order to bring about a greater productivity in them. Get this just right, and you will be amazed at what it can really do for them.
Help Provide For Their Materials
There are always going to be a lot of materials which your child needs at university, and one great way to help them is to provide for these things in any way you can. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with a little financial aid, especially if you know that the money is most likely going towards books and other relevant materials. Just make sure that you allow them to also develop their own material independence, as otherwise it is unlikely that they will really learn anything of value about the nature of money. Help provide for them in whatever way you can, but leave them be to a certain extent too. Get this balance right, and it will really help them out.
Encourage Them From Afar
The more that you can provide encouragement, the more likely it is that they will be able to succeed in their university course. Different children need and want different amounts of encouragement, and it’s important to know your own child well enough to know what is actually right for them. Providing them with just the right kind and amount of encouragement might be the most important thing you do as a parent, so it’s worth not overlooking this vital step. Get it right, and they could see a huge difference in their results.
And what about us parents left behind? Well I’m sure many will experience empty nest syndrome whilst others will immediately book that faraway trip but here are some things that you shouldn’t do!