My Teenager Thinks I’m Stupid.

I am a mum of two teenagers and they both think I’m stupid.

When my children were younger, they would look with me with such admiration. ‘You’re so clever mummy!” Or, “when I grow up, I want to be just like you Mummy!” It was a lovely stage of mutual affection. However, every parent of a teen will nod their head when I say that I’m now the biggest idiot around apparently. I know nuffin’. I have no relevance in modern life. Here it is; My teenagers think I’m stupid. When did my children suddenly change their minds about me and think I’m a complete idiot?

The proof

I can’t work the TV (obviously).

I don’t know the causes of The Spanish Civil War (who does!)

I have never, ever been out to a club (Nooo)

I cannot possibly know how to Tweet (actually…..)

I love gardening (eye roll)

Did you know that if you ate less chocolate, you could lose weight (really? Who knew!?)

My daughter now clutches my leg when I’m driving….

I have never revised for these exams! (Possibly….actually!)

Your arms wobble, look! (garbs my upper arm and physically shake it!)

You have no idea what drugs are out there mum (Just. Stay. Away. Please)

Is stupidity in the genes?

I remember thinking the same as a teenager; my Dad was an idiot too. He used to try to embarrass me on purpose as a joke (it was actually funny but I could never let him know that). In a queue of traffic, he would press the brake in time to the music with his window down so that anyone in the street could see our car moving to the beat of the music. It was the 1980’s so it was Wham! Or Madonna. OMG it was so embarrassing! My Dad would ask my friends when he first met them if they were married. We were possibly 12 or 13…every other Dad was mighty scary but my Dad was hilarious to everyone around him, apart from me. He would grab my hand when walking along the street and start skipping! He was an idiot in my rolling, teenage eyes. Perhaps all parents are idiots?  Is it a stage? Like having toddlers? Perhaps it’s in the genes??

My Teenager thinks I’m stupid. Oldhouseintheshires. #parenting
My Dad was always trying to embarrass me!

My Dad, The Legend

The thing is, that as an adult I realise that my lovely Dad was a legend amongst my friends. I didn’t know it at the time as I lived in a state of constant embarrassment. There is one moment when I realised that he might not be an idiot after all. When I was about 17, I asked him what was the worst thing I could do as a teenager in his eyes. Expecting pregnancy or drugs, he replied, “there is nothing you can do that would shock, embarrass or shame me. You will always be perfect in my eyes.” I had forgotten this amazing conversation until a recent chat with an old school friend who reminded me how amazing my Dad was. I had forgotten because, at the time, he was an idiot but now I realise he was amazing and I was the idiot.

Are things changing?

As their important exams loom, I think my children are finding a new found respect for their old mum. During the Easter break, we purposely didn’t plan any trips so that they could both revise. As a teacher, I am lucky that we share the same holidays so I could be around to support them. I made sure we had food in the house, tested them if they asked and helped my younger child with his GCSE’s. It was harder with my daughter’s A Levels but I was still there to help with Spanish tenses (I’ve never studied Spanish!). I hope my teenagers have a new found respect for me. I actually knew some answers (sharp take in of breath…) and could mark their past papers (well….not maths)! It was fun at times and we laughed together. As they get older are they thinking that maybe mum is not an idiot after all?

I hope that one day, they will look at their old mum in the same way I see my Dad now, as a legend. Until then, I shall fly the flag of stupidity with pride. I just need to think up some really, stupid yet embarrassing things and be like my Dad; it is in the genes after all.

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51 Comments

  • Lovely, honest post, Sophie. Stupidity is definitely a stage we all go through. It is great when we come through it intact, and with flying colours. Enjoy!

  • Ahhhh your Dad!!! He sounds amazing x
    I’m only a couple of years away from this and dreading it, my “10-ager” already thinks he knows everything

    • Oh thank you Anne. you are too kind.

  • My teenager thinks I’m stupid too. I think it’s part of the job description for parents tbh so I try not to let it bother me

  • I really enjoyed your post, it really made me smile. My children are younger but my 9 year old rolls her eyes at me already – I live in dread of the teenage years! Your dad sounds ace.

    • Ahh he was Suzi! Glad you enjoyed it. X

  • I really enjoyed your post, it really made me smile. My children are younger but my 9 year old rolls her eyes at me already – I live in dread of the teenage years! Your dad sounds ace. #bigpinklink

  • I love your writing style! You are so honest and transparent. I have teenagers—so I can totally relate. 🙂

    Happy day friend!
    karianne

    • Thanks for stopping by KariAnne. Thank you for your comment. X

  • To my daughter, 11, I’m already stupid. She gives me daily iPhone tutorials and manages access to the TV channels. I don’t feel I’m too much of an embarrassment yet but have no doubt it will come. And my dad was never the legend yours was – but to be kept out of the way at all costs, which makes me feel awful now he’s no longer here!

    • You have more to come with your 11 year old! Haha. Good luck!

  • I think it’s more that the times are different from when we grew up. Kids are more clued up these days compared to teenagers who grew up in the 70’s, 80’s and early 90’s. My kids think that my parents are delayed as they not techno savvy and there are certain things that they would rectify my husband and I on when it comes to methods of doing certain things #dreamteam

    • Maybe….I just think every teenager thinks their parents are stupid as they always know best!

  • Oh Sophie how I laughed at this. Can you believe I laughed out loud at my phone whilst out alone. Now that is an embarrassing mum. Yes I agree to all of this and laugh/cried about your dad because it reminded me not only of my own father but also of myself. Of course, we all think we are the funniest people we know, don’t we!! The car!! The car moment just made me howl. Why the embarrassment – but we did all feel it didn’t we!! Oh I could go on but hopefully you will feel better at my daughters comment to me at the weekend whilst having lunch with the family ‘LOOK no one is laughing at you mum – STOP!’ – that was just to me, in my ear, quietly – as though I really needed to be told on the quiet!!! Thanks for sharing with #TTB

    • Oh Nicky! Haha. I often laugh out loud, on my own! It’s a quality bestowed on us by “old age” I’m sure! Your daughter….oh! I’d have that said aloud for sure! Glad you enjoyed it. Xx

  • my kids thought i was stupid in their early to mid teens, and by the time they left home at 18 or 19, they seriously wondered how i was going to cope. No i don’t know how to turn the TV, but I don’t watch it, so why learn and they still offer me advice about keeping safe on the internet, doh. Lovely to hear the good stories about your dad, such lovely memories to have #tweensteensbeyond
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    • Really lovely memories, Suzanne. Yes, how wILL we cope? Haha

  • Love this – how satisfying to eventually realise that your Dad is a legend. If my husband sets off skipping down the road (which he has done for comedy effect, just like your Dad) it’s me that cringes more than the kids. Maybe I need to grow up a bit! #TeensTweensBeyond

    • Oh hahaha! Yes, that would be funny!

  • Great post. I am sure they don’t think you are silly though! #CoolMumClub

  • Oh how lovely does your Dad sound?! I have an Auntie like that, she used to play toot and wave to strangers in the car, and yell “Coooooooeeeey” across M&S at the last moment before you dissappeared out of view on the escalators. Totally bonkers, and we all love her so much for it. Definitely the kind of Mum I want to be!
    Thanks so much for linking to #coolmumclub x
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    • Haha! THAT is awesome! dad would have loved her! Thanks for the lovely comment. X

  • Ah what a fab post this is! My younger teens think I am stupid but my 20 year old daughter thinks I’m pretty clever. I think the effect wears off as they get older. Once they leave home they appreciate far more everything that you do for them and realise that you are not that bad after all. Thanks so much for sharing with us at #TweensTeensBeyond

    • Yes that is definately true….my daughter is beginning to think that perhaps we are ok after all and I get the odd cuppa in bed from her now!

  • I was just explaining this exact phenomenon to my friend Sandy, who is blessed with a soph at college who treats her like dirt. I told her know ‘is the time she thinks you’re an idiot.’ It will change, and they will appreciate again… I sure hope so anyway.

    • Hopefully! Actually I think my daughter is definately more appreciative if her old mum!

  • I will be looking forward to reading more of your teenage posts, as I need to be prepared and well armed for this next stage in ur family life! The bit about her clutching your leg, made me chuckle! #coolmumclub

  • Hey Mama, you are doing awesome my love! I do remember this stage growing up too…I had forgotten it but as we head closer and closer to the preteen stage with my eldest, I won’t lie, I’m starting to worry that I too will become ‘stupid’ too!

  • Oh I love this, I remember how embarrassing I thought my Mum but now I look back and realise she was actually and still is pretty darn awesome. Sounds like you are an absolutely incredible Mum and I can’t wait for the day your kids realise you definitely aren’t stupid 🙂 (It is pretty fun to play on the ‘stupidity’ card whilst they’re still easily embarrassed though!) Thanks for sharing with #bigpinklink x

    • That’s a super comment! Thank you so much.

  • Oh Sophie of course they do, my foolproof solution is to chat and engage with all the mates (especially at a pre) they then go off and say how wonderful I am! I believe one even said I was cool! #TweensTeensBeyond
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  • Your Dad sounds awesome and I have all the rest to look forward to. I wonder if my now little boy will think I am stupid in ten years time?! #AnythingGoes

  • I was smiling from ear to ear through this post Sophie. My dad was a bit of a legend too and did the same car move to the radio! All the little stages they go through are so curious aren’t they. I dread to think what mine will think of me when she’s in her teens 🙂 Thanks for joining us for the #Dreamteam xx
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  • Lovely post. I reckon every child goes through this stage of thinking parents are idiots. Worryingly, N is already showing signs of thinking this already, age 7! #coolmumclub

  • Your dad sounds like a funny man! My six year old already gives me withering looks of derision when I don’t know this or that – I shudder to think what she’ll be like at 16! #coolmumclub

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