My youngest had his 16th birthday recently. I often ask, ‘where did those years go?’ but this is so true as I look at my baby who is almost a man. Here is some advice for you, my lovely son, who will always be that cheeky scallywag who got up to all sorts of mischief but always reeled us in with those baby blues.
1. Be Proud.
Be proud of who you are and who you are becoming. Try not to focus on what other people are doing and telling you. You know your own brain so use it (and use it soon as you have GCSE’s this month!) You are already becoming your own person so use that to be someone who others could look up to. You are amazing so feel it and then, live it (just be humble too as a show off gets nowhere).
2. Be Kind.
Be kind to others. It really does come back around! Be that boy who smiles at someone (yes, you are getting better at this!) or sticks up for the underdog. Speak to the girl who no one speaks too; you may find you like her. I know you love our pets so be kind to animals and teach others to do the same. This world needs people like you to look after it. Kindness is at the heart of everything.
3. Be Strong
I was going to write, ‘be tough’ but that isn’t what I meant. Standing up for yourself is not going against the ‘being kind’ mantra. There are some people in this world who are not kind so sometimes you will have to stand up for what you believe in. Do this in a firm and strong way. Don’t let others walk all over you. By being kind, you do not have to be weak and remember, words can be your most powerful ally.
4. Be loved.
Surround yourself with people who love you. This won’t be difficult for you. You have always had lots of friends who flock around you as you are fun and have a good heart. By surrounding yourself with good people who love you makes you stronger when things get tough. Tell people you love them and show love to those closest to you otherwise how will they know? Just don’t go ‘showing’ love to lots of different people…
5. Be You.
You are unique so celebrate yourself by being yourself. It doesn’t matter if you don’t follow the crowd. There are billions of people on this planet yet only one of you. You are not me or your Dad so follow your own path. It may take you somewhere amazing.
Happy Birthday son. You make us proud everyday. Xx
A blog about my life in The Old House, a mum to teenagers, a primary school teacher and my passion for gardening.