Advice For My Son As He Turns 16.

My youngest had his 16th birthday recently. I often ask, ‘where did those years go?’ but this is so true as I look at my baby who is almost a man. Here is some advice for you, my lovely son, who will always be that cheeky scallywag who got up to all sorts of mischief but always reeled us in with those baby blues.

1. Be Proud.

Be proud of who you are and who you are becoming. Try not to focus on what other people are doing and telling you. You know your own brain so use it (and use it soon as you have GCSE’s this month!) You are already becoming your own person so use that to be someone who others could look up to. You are amazing so feel it and then, live it (just be humble too as a show off gets nowhere).

2. Be Kind.

Be kind to others. It really does come back around! Be that boy who smiles at someone (yes, you are getting better at this!) or sticks up for the underdog. Speak to the girl who no one speaks too; you may find you like her. I know you love our pets so be kind to animals and teach others to do the same. This world needs people like you to look after it. Kindness is at the heart of everything.

3. Be Strong

I was going to write, ‘be tough’ but that isn’t what I meant. Standing up for yourself is not going against the ‘being kind’ mantra. There are some people in this world who are not kind so sometimes you will have to stand up for what you believe in. Do this in a firm and strong way. Don’t let others walk all over you. By being kind, you do not have to be weak and remember, words can be your most powerful ally.

4. Be loved.

Surround yourself with people who love you. This won’t be difficult for you. You have always had lots of friends who flock around you as you are fun and have a good heart. By surrounding yourself with good people who love you makes you stronger when things get tough. Tell people you love them and show love to those closest to you otherwise how will they know? Just don’t go ‘showing’ love to lots of different people…

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Be you. Xxx

5. Be You.

You are unique so celebrate yourself by being yourself. It doesn’t matter if you don’t follow the crowd. There are billions of people on this planet yet only one of you. You are not me or your Dad so follow your own path. It may take you somewhere amazing.

Happy Birthday son. You make us proud everyday. Xx

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  • Lovely. My boy’s about to turn 18, I can’t believe it. As they get older, it seems important to also say ‘Remember women are your equal, and deserve much respect, including the same opportunities and wages’, but perhaps I’m getting ahead of myself! Have a wonderful day of celebration, and don’t forget to treat yourself too (I usually get a massage, as my labour was particularly long and arduous!) G :~)

    • I know. I have an 18 year old daughter and I can’t believe it either! Where does time go? Thanks for stopping by. X

    • Ahhh Liz…where does time go? That’s my baby!! Bullet train? Japan… you were in Vietnam last time I popped over to your blog. I must pop back. I’m waving at you…👋🏻👋🏻👋🏻👋🏻 And hoping you are still enjoying yourself. Xxx

    • Thank you so much Arundhati! I can’t believe that he is 16 already…time flies. Xx
      I saw your amazing pic of you in the snow on Instagram so am off to see where you’ve been travelling to…..

  • What an amazing list. I want to bookmark this so I can share with my son when he reaches 16. Your advice is brilliant especially, be you! Couldn’t agree more. #tweensteensbeyond

  • Poignant and amusing at the same time Sophie. I wish your son a fabulous birthday and may he continue to be all of those things. Such lovely words. Thanks for sharing with us at #tweensteensbeyond

    • Thankyou Nicky! I can’t believe he is already 16!

    • It does go so quickly! Thank you for reading.

  • Oh I can’t imaging being a Mum to a 16 year old! This is such a lovely and sentimental post – I’m sure you have given him everything he needs to go ahead doing all of this and more.
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    • That’s very kind. It will come quickly than you think! Good luck.

  • Just wonderful! What a lovely post, full of sage advice and it was very moving. Isn’t it strange how fast the years pass us by. You just blink and your little kids are almost adults. Thanks so much for sharing your fab post at #TweensTeensBeyond

    • Thanks Sharon. I almost didn’t write this as it’s quite personal but then thought, why not! I want to remember how I feel at this very moment.

  • Oh your youngest!! I can’t imagine. Such a sweet post and I’m sure one he will cherish, I like how you pair being strong with being kind and I love the cute little boy photo you have of him – such a great smile! #Tweensteensbeyond

    • Thanks Liberty. I don’t share pics often but I do love this one! He was such a cheeky little one!

  • A lovely post Sophie and a touching tribute to your son too. You are clearly very proud of the young man he is becoming. I nodded at your advice for being strong, there is so much to it as you say than being tough which suggests just physical toughness. We need our boys to be strong emotionally too and that is so easy to overlook sometimes. Hope you celebrated in style and wishing him lots of luck in his GCSE’s. A double whammy for you! #TweensTeensBeyond
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    • Thanks Jo! Yes, double whammy but first day today and all’s well. They really couldn’t have studied anymore so what will be will be. Thank you for your kind words. Hugs to you. X

  • This made me tear up a little because my oldest celebrated his 16th in November and I wrote him a poem on my blog. All of these thoughts came to my mind as he turned 16 too and seeing your son’s picture of him as a little guy hit home. They’re growing up so fast but they are good people. That’s the best thing about watching your children grow – Getting to see the people they become:) #TweensTeensBeyond
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    • Oh I know Michelle! It’s exciting and heartbreaking all at the same time!

  • Lovely, and made my eyes leak a bit. He’s got a great mum and he sounds like he has the world ahead of him. I have this to face in few years! I am in denial! #tweenteensbeyond

    • So am I!! It’s come too soon definately!

  • Adorable! He sounds like a lovely lad. I can’t even begin to imagine my baby being that big – it seems like a lifetime away but I’m sure it will whizz by.

    And congratulations because someone loved this post so much, they added it to the #BlogCrush linky! Feel free to collect your “I’ve been featured” blog badge 🙂

    • Oh wow! Thankyou Alice!
      I’ll be back to your linky soon. I’m taking a break for a few weeks. Xx

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