I have two children of my own; one boy and one girl. My daughter is 18. She is fun loving, sassy and smart and I love that she and I can have a laugh together. Parenting her has been fun although trickier at the teenage stage for sure! Recently, I wrote a post about parenting little boys so I thought it was only right that I wrote a similar post about what I’ve learnt about parenting little girls. As well as having my own daughter, I have taught hundreds of little girls in my role as a primary school teacher so here are some of the things I have learnt along the way!
This post is a bit of fun. It’s not intended to offend anyone. I believe that all children should be treated equally and, of course, all little children are individuals. However, there are differences that you, as parents may have noticed too!
1. She may be more girly than you…or not at all.
Some children are just really into pink and sparkle. I write children because boys can also be into pink and sparkly too. They just gravitate to Disney, pink, sparkle and anything glittery however gender neutral you want to be. Well, that was just not me growing up; I would have preferred to be up a tree so I did wonder how my own daughter would be. Would she be very ‘girly’? Into pink, tutus, princesses and dolls? Well, she loved dolls and soft toy animals but hated pink! She loved putting baby animals to bed and nurturing them but refused, aged 7, to wear pink and was just as happy to climb trees as baking a cake. Girls can be a mixture of everything you’ve imagined girls would be and more. My daughter liked green, not pink as pink stinks. Even at 8, she was aware that there was not enough choice for girls clothes that wasn’t pink for those that didn’t like pink! We were always very relaxed about what she wore but it was interesting that she made these choices for herself which leads me nicely into…..
2. She’ll know her own mind……at 2.
Girls are just born knowing their own minds, I’m sure of it! They say that boys are more physical, well girls are just more chatty! I clearly remember my two year old neice telling my children that there was “a sheep inside your house! Go and see! Really!” My niece wanted a go on our trampoline on her own so to get my children off the trampoline, she had told them there was a sheep indoors! How clever is that? She was two years old! Toddler girls use language they don’t really understand but it makes them seem so grown up. They will give a running commentary of their day and expect your to listen and join in however exhausted you may feel.
3. You will fight over her hair….trust me.
Having a little girl, I imagined doing her hair in cute little bows or in different styles. The thing is, girls know their own mind as toddlers, so they may refuse to wear their hair in the beautiful bows that you have bought and ask for their hair to be whatever you didn’t want it to be! This works for what they wear too by the way. How many little girls cut their own hair I wonder? Must be thousands! They wanted a fringe or were playing hairdressers. They hate their hair long/short/wavy/straight. They want their hair to be like their friends (who has straggly, thin locks) so insist in having it in plaits, bunches or ‘one on the side’ for school. The problem is, they ask this 5 minutes before you have to leave for school! Don’t get me started on teenage girls and hair…that is another post!
4. She says….they said…..you will hear tales and secrets.
Girls are usually so good with using language that they use their words to describe how their feeling, all the time. I hear so many amazing conversations as a teacher, when children are playing imaginatively -let’s just say that children repeat what they hear at home, at school! Girls also tell tales; especially between the ages of 5 and 8. ‘She said that I couldn’t play so I said that…..” “I didn’t hurt her but she said that I….” “No, I didn’t hit him….” Boys are much more straight forward when it comes to sorting out friendship issues; girls are not. They tend to fester and will relive friendship issues at home or make them out to be much more serious that they actually are. Girls like drama basically. Oh! And secrets…..
5. She will strike a pose.
What is it about girls and posing? They jut out their hip or purse their lips together automatically don’t they? Taking selfies on the iPad was the thing last year in my class of 6 year olds. If you took a photo of a child for their books in school ten years ago, they would ignore you and carry on playing. Now, they stop and pose! They copy their favourite movie character who has more sass these days than Beyoncé. I know we want confident role models for our girls but when little girls start twerking in the playground…….
So there we have my thoughts! Do they match yours?